From episode: Conversation with Dr. Rev. Ahmondra McClendon - The Uncrowned Queen Reclaims Her Throne
Share a little bit about, who you are, about your journey, you know, the things that you talk about in your book and how you claimed your queendom back, how you got it back. Go ahead. The floor is yours.
Thank you so much. You know, as I was writing the book, I realized that I've been so blessed because I've come through so much, and this is a story about healing and transformation and the fact that I lived so many years with secrets, secrets of a 20 plus year drug and alcohol addiction, secrets about domestic violence, secrets about childhood trauma, molestation. And then as a young woman, having my best friend murdered and never understanding who did it, or why they did it, and never speaking about any of that, but living this life on the outside as if everything was okay. I was a high achiever. I went to college. If you looked at me and you looked at my husband, we look like the perfect couple, like life was well and good and it wasn't. I was living behind a wall of secrets and it wasn't until my 20s when I was diagnosed with Discoird Lupus Erythematosus that I really started to understand if I did not do something, I was going to live a life of illness for a long time and possibly die because of my illness.
And that was when I started to begin to make small changes. And then I made a large change. And that large change was ending my marriage, which was filled with domestic violence. I ended that marriage, returned to school and also started to do some healing. And as a result, I ended up in recovery. I was a practicing addict and alcoholic, which means that I functioned every day. I got up and I went to work every day. So in my mind, I was fine. I couldn't, how could I be an addict or an alcoholic if I'm functioning and I'm completing college and I'm an administrator of a large organization, not realizing or understanding that it is a disease. And through a series of events, I ended up, it's funny, in a meeting, I thought I was going to help other people and ended up helping myself. And that is when I stepped into recovery. And that is when I started looking at my life, truly peeling back the curtain and taking a really honest look like everything isn't OK. And I am hurting and hurting in a very deep way. And that is when the recovery started. That is also when I was made friends with other women in recovery. And we're still friends. That's why sisterhood is so important to me. We've been together for thirty five. I've been in recovery thirty six years. So we've been together all this time. And this is the place where I can go to and talk about whatever is going on with me so that I don't live with those secrets, because secrets have a tendency to make us do other things so that we feel good because the secrets make us feel bad.
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