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Why Do We Struggle to Let Go of Emotions?

From episode: Conversation with Traci Hill - Subtle Energy Alchemist

Hi guys, welcome back. If you're just joining me, I'm speaking with Tracy Hill today, and we're talking about energy healing. That's what she does. She is an energy healer and an alchemist, and she helps shift her client's energy to release these blockages that cause dis-ease in our body. So Tracy, I was thinking during the break, why is it so many of us have a hard time letting go of an emotion? Maybe is it the ancestral, when that comes in, is it maybe we have a hard time letting go of anger, or rage, or sadness, or grief? And we can't, no matter what kind of work we're doing, therapy, or whatever, it just won't leave us.

Because I know there's a lot of people that I talk to on a regular basis that walk around, and they say, "why do I feel this way, and I don't know why I feel this way." Like, they can't name it, you know? That's a really great question, and I was actually talking to someone somewhat about this topic. So first, like, I'm not knocking talk therapy, but it is really outdated. All of my clients have been in talk therapy, and they're like, it doesn't work. They've been doing it for 10 years, and if you're doing it for more than five years, it's not working. My goal is for you to figure out the rest of your journey, like, give you the tools, right? And that should be everyone. Like, I don't heal you, you heal yourself.

No one else can heal you. So it's giving you the tools. So then you have to remember that our emotions are protecting us from something, and it's almost always from childhood. Sometimes it is ancestral. Sometimes it's from the moment you're born, was your mother going through something during pregnancy and gave that to you, and I find that a lot. Like, the mother - child bond, if there was a lot of issues during pregnancy, they actually come out to the children. The child gets it, and then they don't know, like you said, why am I, why can't I get rid of this? I don't understand, because they didn't understand what their mom was going through, and if you interviewed your mother, you would probably find that there was some stuff that she didn't ever want to admit that she was going through. Maybe she was resentful, she was pregnant, but then had you and was fine, but the resentment, which is anger, like, really presented itself frequency wise to you.

So the emotions, though, if they're from childhood, they're there to protect us, the and when idea, number one, the idea of letting go of something that has protected us is scary for people, because then it's like, well, what's gonna protect me? Now, this is all, of course, un and subconscious. It's not something you like logically. Like, logically, you know that doesn't make sense, but your logic does not run your life. Your subconscious runs 95 % of your life, period. There's nothing you can do about that. All your habits, your thoughts, your beliefs, like you said, people talking nasty to themselves, that's all unconscious. You're not doing it on purpose. So it has a protection mechanism, but two, people don't want to dive into the reasons that they're struggling. Like, they just don't want to face it. They'd rather do other things like watch TV, drink alcohol, over exercise, just ignore it. I don't want to look at that. I don't want to face it. And so it's easier to ignore and question and blame other situations or people for the situation you're in or the struggles you're having. But the reality is it's all on you. No one did anything to you. It's the way you interpreted it. And now it's a coping mechanism. So that anger is a coping mechanism. That fear is a coping mechanism. The grief is a coping mechanism for not wanting to work on the reason you took it in that way.

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